Of pleasure, happiness and confusion………..

(This blog is inspired by an article I read on dependence of happiness on oneself)

Happiness…………….this word sounds good! When you hear it, you feel good! When it happens to you, you feel even better and when it keeps happening to you all the time, you are on top of the world! And all of us crave for happiness. Our happiness is often conditional! IF I get this, I’ll be happy, IF that someone loves me, I’ll be happy, IF my work proceeds smoothly, I’ll be happy! And when these IFs betray us, we’re unhappy! Happiness sounds fine as far as these “happy” things keep happening to you. But what IF these happy things fail to happen? We become unhappy? In most cases, yes.

The problem becomes grave when these happy IFs keep failing to happen for a long time. We seem to think that the Universe is conspiring against us. We feel that the whole world of ours is falling apart. We lose interest in the most loved things of ours and eventually, break down! So, if this problem is so grave, why doesn’t it surface in our list of problems! (We refers to us, the common people)

Well, let me state an example. Your work’s not proceeding well and you take a “break”! A break could just be anything, a coffee break, a sleep break, an ice-cream break…………and then, we feel happy. But look carefully, is it happiness you’re talking about? Or it is just pleasure? Or is it about confusion between the two? (Hence, the title, of happiness, pleasure and confusion)

Most of us do fall prey to this confusion (including the author of this blog). I have had a fair share of this confusion myself. So, what does one do to avoid the confusion between happiness and pleasure????? Well, I’m afraid, I have no tailor-made answer. At the max, I can express MY view-point on this!

So, my view point is, one ought to recognize that there’s a little corner inside all of us that takes care of happiness! Only that this little corner is overburdened by the heavy sacks of pleasure! So, dish that corner out. For this corner holds the key to internal happiness. This is that corner that brings you to an equilibrium with yourself, co-ordinates your thoughts and body, makes you stable mentally………..but easier said than done!!!!!!!!!!

This means, we have to become detached with things to a good degree. Yes, we can try to do it, but can we really do it? I guess, attachment comes to us naturally. When we’ve invested in something, we tend to become attached to it. This inherent tendency of being attached with things is by no means easy to get rid of! As I stated in my previous blog, it took me forever to become detached from my rangolis that I’d have invested hours working on…………not that I don’t feel sad still when a cat runs over it or when it has to be washed off. But I guess, I compensate for all that by counting the number of times I’ve derived satisfaction by looking at it………….

So, this detachment has to be taught to oneself and the limits may vary from one person to the other. Attachment is RIGHT, but how much and when is the thing that can save us a lot of externally induced unhappiness. And for that, one needs to work on oneself. We have to nurture that small little corner in us to realize that happiness is a state of being……only that we don’t know about it as yet.

And an important thing to learn when we teach ourselves detachment is that more the attachment, more likely is the hurt caused by the attachment. One has to toughen oneself against the onslaught of unfavourable circumstances/people/thoughts………..

I don’t know if I am making sense still………..so, I shall stop! 😀




  1. sathya said,

    May 3, 2006 at 11:26 am

    Looks like you’ve been reading ‘Siddhartha’. You dealt in a good deal of metaphysics in this blog (quite a stark contrast with your recent blogs!). I should ask this blog to be redrafted for the masses (includes me!).

  2. Pritesh said,

    May 3, 2006 at 12:19 pm

    🙂 Sathya, I think YOU are talking in encrypted language now!

  3. sathya said,

    May 3, 2006 at 6:56 pm

    Siddhartha is a novel by Herman Hesse which describes exactly this.

    In your recent blogs, you’ve expressed your feelings using some incidents / events as a base for narrative. In this blog you delve right into the subject without the aid of an elaborate narrative. While this is precise to the point, it is subject to a very wide scope of interpretation (depending on the readers associtaion of these words) and might not convey your thoughts well.

    P.S. This blog is dated before the ‘Feelings of a rangoli artist’!

  4. Pritesh said,

    May 4, 2006 at 10:18 am

    Well, Sathya, I wrote this blog after the Rangoli blog. But somehow, it appeared before the Rnagoli one! I guess, the clock of the blogger.com isn’t working properly!

    Anyway, yes, my blog can be interpreted in many ways. But then, that’s true of everything one has in this world! There are always three perspectives to a thing, yours, mine and the right one! 😀

  5. Karthik said,

    May 5, 2006 at 2:40 am

    We have to nurture that small little corner until it becomes a big large corner:) Finally , happiness is not a state of mind, it is an attitude.

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